Quotes By Dan Savage

It's going to take generations of gay people marrying before these things start to feel natural. We haven't had it long enough to remake it as our own, so it does feel like you're getting dressed up in straight drag to do it.

When you're young and queer and closeted, you can end up in this place where you regard your straight peers as the enemy.

Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives.

To be gay is nothing to be proud of. It's in how you are gay that you have something to be proud of, considering the obstacles placed in your path if you are gay.

Men were never expected to be monogamous.

Sometimes I talk to religious people about my column or what I do, and I ask them to, you know, read 20 or 30 of them and then come tell me that the message at the heart of every column isn't, 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.' In every possible sense.

Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage.

The only way to get gay issues off the front pages of Canadian newspapers is to grant gay and lesbian people our full civil equality and leave it alone.

I have a thick skin, but I have a heart.

Straight people are everywhere!

I treat people who write me the way my friends and I all treat each other when we go to each other for advice, which is sometimes with supreme cruelty.

School is very conformist, and one of the very first conforming that goes on in preschool and kindergarten is gender.

Books are magic: you never know where they're going to end up.

I get letters every year from women who think Valentine's Day is an empty exercise, but are ironically pretty exercised when their boyfriends neglect or forget it.

But it doesn't matter what you're doing, it matters how you're doing it.

In an open adoption agreement, you agree to a minimum number of visits - a floor, not a ceiling. It's enforceable.

The successes of the LGBT civil rights movement and the more prominent role openly gay people are playing in the public eye has actually turned up the temperature in middle schools and high schools for queer kids.

The bullied straight kid goes home to a shoulder to cry on and support and can talk freely about his experience at school and why he's being bullied. I couldn't go home and open up to my parents.

A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves.

I believe it's in the best interests of a child to be in a stable environment.

Every question is a hypothetical question for everyone but the person who asks it.

The mistake that straight people made was imposing the monogamous expectation on men. Men were never expected to be monogamous.

Like it or not children are being raised by gay and lesbian parents all over America - as many as 10 million children. And it does nothing to make their lives more stable and secure to attack their families, to attack their parents to prevent us from marrying each other.

Most Americans don't care about gay marriage.

I don't think it's the responsibility of gays and lesbians to reinvent the family.

One man's blasphemy doesn't override other people's free-speech rights, their freedom to publish, freedom of thought.

There are so many people out there with less shame talking about their problems.

You know, my problem is I can't say no to people, especially people who want to write me checks to do things.

I got picked on a lot, even by teachers too. I liked to listen to musicals and bake, and my homeroom teacher found out and mocked me in front of the whole class for baking.

You want to help gay kids, you have to reach them in middle school and high school, when they're being bullied.