Quotes By Dan Savage

I didn't want kids to think that to be happy, they had to be famous or rich or live in the big city.

When I was in high school I got involved in the fringe theater scene in Chicago, and I met some openly gay people. I could see that it got better, that they were happy and loved and supported. I saw with my own eyes that it got better.

Really, when it comes to gay rights, there's two wars going on. The first war is political. But the culture war is over.

No, I'm not good looking.

Mother's Day is a torment if your mother is dead. Valentine's Day is a torment if you don't got one. And at some point in our lives, we will be tormented by Valentine's Day even if we're relatively lucky in love.

A certain tiny percentage of everyone is gay.

How can you tell somebody whose is pursuing happiness that they're somehow not American when that was the very first promise that America made?

I don't write about my life in my column.

So I don't feel particularly wealthy-but, you know, I pay my taxes and I know that I am.

I think the 'South Park' guys are brilliant.

Actual gay people can make many others feel uncomfortable and paranoid because they don't know and can't articulate what makes a person gay, and they worry that maybe they themselves are gay.

I own a lot of my house, because I'm Irish and from people who never owned anything.

A lot of people are living their lives online in much more public ways with Facebook and Twitter.

I'm allergic to dogs, so I couldn't even adopt what gay men typically adopt when they have that maternal gene.

The cultural expectation should be if there's infidelity, the marriage is more important than fidelity.

Ultimately life is disease, death and oblivion. It's still better than high school.

When I was a kid, and I was odd, the default assumption was that I was odd, not that I was gay. Now when a kid is odd in a Greensburg, gay or straight, the default assumption is gay.

I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living, one where you do what you want to do, pursue your passions. That way, if you meet someone, they'll be joining a life that's already really good.

If what you want is a life where your homosexuality is not an issue, move, as many have done.

I don't like to think about what school was like for me.

See, I'm a subverter at heart.

A lot of kids are bullied because of their sexual identity or expression. It's often the effeminate boys and the masculine girls, the ones who violate gender norms and expectations, who get bullied.

The Bible is a radically pro-slavery document. Slave owners waved Bibles over their heads in the Civil War and justified it.

Preaching to the choir actually arms the choir with arguments and elevates the choir's discourse. There's a reason the right does it and does it well and triumphs.

I don't think that sin and pursuing happiness are not necessarily the same thing.

When you're young and queer and closeted, you can end up in this place where you regard your straight peers as the enemy.

It's going to take generations of gay people marrying before these things start to feel natural. We haven't had it long enough to remake it as our own, so it does feel like you're getting dressed up in straight drag to do it.

Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives.

To be gay is nothing to be proud of. It's in how you are gay that you have something to be proud of, considering the obstacles placed in your path if you are gay.

Men were never expected to be monogamous.